Activities in Building Self-Esteem in Children

As parents, one of the main things we need to do is boost up and build our children’s self-esteem level. We need to teach our children to have a strong sense of self worth, both in themselves and in their talents. This can be difficult to do because as parents we need to give them ’space’ to find out certain things on their own and yet be there to guide them along the way too.

If we show a certain level of disinterest, giving them too much freedom, then that can lead to rebellion but if we are too strict, then that can also lead to problems and hinder them from developing independently.

Self-esteem can be encouraged and developed anytime in a persons life, that is why it’s always good to begin early with your children, so they will learn to trust in their abilities and talents. Below are some activities that you can do with your child that can help them increase their level of self-esteem.

1. Self-affirming statements

Have them stand in front of a mirror and say what a great person they are, or you can begin for them as they look at themselves in the mirror, until they get comfortable doing it by themselves. It may seem childish, but it works, and even some adults do it in order to boost their confidence for the upcoming day or event. You don’t even have to stick to the mirror process. They can say self-affirming words without looking in a mirror and it can be just as effective in helping them feel positive about themselves and have greater self-confidence.

Come up with a song that your child can easily remember, perhaps one to a favorite tune or mantra like, ’Happy Birthday’, but just change the words. When they get up in the morning, you can sing the mantra to your child and have them sing one to you. This should be a special time and a fun way of telling each other how special they are and how much you love them.

You can be creative, by showing your love and acceptance you can never go wrong. Feel free to come up with even more songs, or poems; as long as they encourage your child in what makes them so special.

2. Playing the Positive Traits Game

Another activity that you can do with your child, that will not only boost their self-esteem, but also help in building his or her vocabulary, is the positive trait game. In this game, you will each tell each other the positive traits that one sees in the other. The catch is that the trait should start in a specific letter of the alphabet.

The positive trait game is a wonderful way to teach your kid to think positive thoughts and to acknowledge the traits and talents that make him or her unique. This is also a great way to make sure that he or she will grow up knowing where his or her strengths lie.

3. Do activities that they love

It is good to introduce new activities to them so they can find out which ones they enjoy and feel they are good at. One great way to do this, is through summer programs, where they have all kinds of things for kids to do. For Example, maybe they find out they are great in art, drawing, painting but they don’t really enjoy music all that much. So don’t discount music lessons as part of his summer curriculum.

Anyhow, if he does not like it, at least he has learned something new. By allowing them to explore different things, they will find out what they love to do and what they are really good at; this is a wonderful way to boost their self-confidence early in life. Childhood is a wonderful time in life and by allowing your child to enjoy activates, they will become even more adventurous and open to learning new things.

It’s not often that we absolutely have to be naked in our lives. But there are occasions when you have no choice, such as when you shower with your team mates after a sports game. And there are other times when you’d like to share an intimate moment or two with your partner.

So how can you overcome your worry about being naked around other people?

1. Practice being naked when you’re alone

There’s a good chance that the mere thought of being naked and vulnerable is at the root of your issue. So, when you’re alone and unlikely to be disturbed, lock all the doors, close the curtains and remove your clothes. You don’t have to do a striptease - just take them off the same way as if you were about to have a bath or shower. Then just stay naked in your room and get used to your body being visible. Congratluations! You’ve taken your first step to becoming more comfortable with yourself when you’re not protected by clothes and losing your shyness of being naked.

2. Recognize that you’re not different

If you’re a member of the human race, you aren’t going to be much different from around 50% of everyone else alive. You could be a few inches shorter or taller than others. Maybe you’ve got a few more (or less) pounds on your body. But when it comes down to it, you’re either male or female and you’re quite similar to near enough every other male or female. Whilst this may not alay your fear, it may help you to start to rationalize your phobia.

3. Seek out help

One of the fastest ways to get over your worry about being naked is to get some help. And one of the best ways to do this is to use a specially constructed hypnosis MP3 to overcome your phobia of being naked. It’s cheap to buy, you can play it to yourself as often as you like, it’s 100% discreet and actually works. Download a hypnosis track to get rid of your phobia of being naked here.

Appearance and Self Esteem

Like many self improvement concepts, improving self esteem is full of mumbo jumbo that has little practical value. Telling someone to have a firm hand shake, look people in the eye, or repeat “I’m somebody” over and over- just isn’t going to do it.

Trust me on this one, increasing your self esteem takes action. Heathy self esteem comes from having confidence in your abilities. How do you develop confidence? From being comfortable in who you are and your abilities. How do develop abilities? They same way you get good at anything else in life, by working at it until you get it right. You don’t suddenly wake up one day with high self esteem. You work on the things that will make you feel good about yourself until your poor self esteem gradually becomes good self esteem over time.

Let me share something with you that you will never hear from the warm and fuzzy crowd: You have to be willing to make changes. You can’t expect to keep living life like you’ve been living it, and have things change on their own. You have to take action to make them change.

If you want to develop your self esteem, you need to feel good about yourself and your abilities. And there’s no better place to start than how you feel about your physical appearance. Think about it. Do you ever see a professional athlete that’s trying to overcome no self esteem? If anything, these guys have too much self esteem!

Some of that increased self esteem might come from birth, but I guarantee you that improved self confidence was built from many hours of a hard work and training. This work gave them the foundation for improving the self esteem they already had.

Let me share something with you that Arnold Schwarzenegger said that few people ever think about:

“Once you have the discipline to affect the shape of your body, you have the discipline to accomplish anything.”

Do you see the hidden key here to more self esteem? You start with the body, and the mind will follow. I call it getting a new body and new life. Would having the discipline to accomplish anything you set your mind to help you overcome poor self esteem?

You bet it would!

Think about how few people you know that can control the shape of their body through proper diet and exercise. Just a fraction of the population- correct? Now tell me how you would feel about yourself if you knew YOU were one of those people. Think about any weight loss success story you’ve ever heard of. Did the person who succeed at that say life is the same- or are they totally excited!

They say things like “I can’t believe my boost in self confidence and self esteem. I feel like a brand new person.”

The same thing happened to me. At age fourty-nine, I totally changed the shape of my body. I was the proverbial 90 pound weakling growing up. As I got older, I became a fat weakling. Then I took control of my body. And it did give me the discipline, courage, and self esteem to accomplish whatever I set my mind to. I quit my job and wrote a book about it. Now I travel and go on the radio giving interviewers and guidance on how anyone can have a new body and life. This is something that I never would of had the self esteem or self confidence to do before.

If I can do it, you can do it. Take control of your low self esteem by transforming yourself physically first. All it takes is eating right and getting in some challenging exercise. Once you do this, I can promise you, a self esteem boost is right around the corner.

The Sedona method is a great way to help release all the pent up feelings that otherwise conspire to bring us down.

At its simplest and easiest, the Sedona method gives you just three easy questions to ask yourself.

It’s not like an exam or test at college. Whatever your answer, it is correct. The first two questions are either “yes” or “no”. The third just needs an answer. More of that later.

Before you can start asking yourself the 3 Sedona questions, you have to find a feeling that is causing you some kind of issue. If this is the first time you’ve used Sedona, start simply. The sound of your computer’s fan, the sniff in your nose that you can’t shift, something simple like that. Nothing too serious to start with!

If you can’t think of anything else, work on the doubt you’ve got about whether the Sedona method works for anyone let alone works for you.

Then with the feeling you’ve homed in on, ask yourself the 3 Sedona method questions:

1. Could I let it go?
2. Would I let it go?
3. When?

Go through the questions in order. Don’t move on to the next question before answering. And don’t be surprised if answering these superficially simple questions takes more than a few seconds. They’re quite deep for questions that appear shallow to your conscious mind. That’s why they work so well.

As I said earlier, questions 1 and 2 need a “yes” or “no” answer. Answering “maybe” isn’t good enough. Sorry. Get off the fence, if only for a milli-second!

The third question is much more open. Same as the first 2 questions there aren’t any correct or incorrect answers. Your answer to “when” doesn’t matter too much. You could answer “now” or “tomorrow” or “next week” or “never”. So long as you answer, it’s OK. And all points inbetween.

After that, just work your way through the 3 Sedona method questions as many times as you need to. Go with your first feeling or a new one if that’s taken a more prominent place. Or with whatever has taken its place. Accept whatever happens as being OK - you’ll have a good idea of what’s correct for you at this moment. Either as a gut reaction or by instinct.

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